Reflections on the 8 Virtues: Honour
Integrity – Incorruptible – Taking only what you deserve, having earned it
As a child I often got into trouble. I was a turbulent boy, disruptive, easily distracted, and very impressionable. Looking back, I understand I probably had ADHD. My parents were often exasperated by my behaviours and attitudes. My father in particular was not shy about sharing his irritation. I became a very unstable teenager and young adult, both physically and mentally. I used a lot of drugs and at times abused alcohol. I am also aware that I was abused at different levels. Despite all that, I was and remain a “bon vivant” although I lacked self-confidence, and was delinquent at times. Desiring acceptance I grew to be selfish, greedy and arrogant.
When I joined the Fung Loy Kok Institute of Taoism, I had no idea that I would be taught The Eight Virtues and it took me a few years to begin to absorb these teachings. Now, all the reflections that we regularly hear nourish me, touch me deeply and give rise to a precious and soothing sensitivity.
The virtue of Honour in particular, outlined in the booklet, the Eight Confucian Virtues, is helping me to develop into a better person. Generosity, humility, frugality and compassion are the qualities that I now aim for and I find myself supported in this journey by the great family of the Fung Loy Kok Institute of Taoism and by people dear to me in my personal life.